3 tips for Self-Pleasure when you don’t have time

by Jaiya

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had clients tell me they don’t have enough time to self-pleasure.

I get it, you’ve got bills to pay, children to nurture, a career to take to the next level, and your health to maintain.

Did you know that being in pleasure can make you far more productive and happier while you breeze through your back to back life?

And the truth is – we can make time for anything we want!

The question is…

What do you truly value???

So exactly how do you find time to self-pleasure with all this life stuff eating up all your time?

Here are 3 tips for self-pleasure when you feel you don’t have time:

1. Put pleasure on your calendar

You put everything else on your calendar: doctor’s appointments, family gatherings, and your work hours if you’re an entrepreneur. Why not do the same for your personal pleasure?

Your body is sacred, so make time to give it the VIP treatment.

Set aside at least 10 – 25 minutes a day to give your body some good love.

2. Get curious! Explore your genitals without focusing on climaxing

While climaxing feels AMAZING, it isn’t the determining factor of a great sexual experience – even with yourself.

The 5 Erotic Blueprints give you ample access to a banquet feast of options to arouse and satisfy your desires.


Tap into the Energetic Blueprint™ by envisioning light coming through your hands and hovering over your genitals to experience higher sexual consciousness.

Relish the Sensual Blueprint™ by rolling your hips and pelvis in a circle like you’re dancing and slowly contour your touch all over your body with candles lit and music playing in the background.

Indulge your Sexual Blueprint™ by engaging directly with your genitals, exploring every part with differing speeds and intensity. Build intense arousal but resist climax to extend your pleasure.

Turn up your Kinky Blueprint™ by teasing your genitals, squeezing or giving them a slap. Try different levels of squeezes to see which one you like best. You can also slap or scratch parts of your body to intensify sensation.

And satisfy your Shapeshifter Blueprint™ by mixing together a little bit of everything listed above.

Don’t worry about other partners or what they would like. This is for you.

Use these examples as ways to extend the fun in your pleasure practice and to appreciate the wonders of erotic possibility found throughout your entire body.

3. Turn your self-pleasure into self-care

If you take time to do something nice for yourself like getting a massage, working out or buying a gift for yourself and call it self-care, you can do the same for your self-pleasure practice.

It’s the TLC your body may be searching for, and the best part is that you don’t have to rely on anyone else to do it for you.

Make it fun – use healthy toys, vibrators, anal plugs or good ol’ fashion fingers to your heart’s content.

If you want to explore more of your genital arousal and pleasure, check out Genital Amnesia: Rediscovering Your Pleasure Pieces.

An additional bonus to making self-pleasure part of your everyday life is the awesome health benefits:

Orgasms help reduce stress in the body thanks to the release of oxytocin.

According to a study done by The British Medical Journal, cisgender men who had frequent orgasms had a longer lifespan than those who had little to no orgasms.

A study done by Sage Journals indicated that sexual activity could relieve migraines.

Another study by European Urology showed that frequent ejaculations can lower the risk of prostate cancer.

And a study by Barry R. Komisaruk, Beverly Whipple, Sara Nasserzadeh and Carlos Beyer-Flores revealed that women used orgasms as a way to improve their ability to fall asleep.

What a great way to take advantage of your body’s natural benefits!

As Masturbation Month cums to an end, it’s time to use self-pleasure to increase your life fulfillment, don’t you think?

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A little self-pleasure every day can help keep the doctor away.

Pleasure is your birthright!

It’s time to put yourself first.

You deserve it!


“Our compatibility has gone through the roof…how to be pleased. How to ask to be sexually pleased. How to please you (your partner) sexually. How to experience not only the orgasms we were already having and the ecstatic pleasure that we were already living, but now to have it magnify and multiply and go to whole new levels. It feels like we’re starting our relationship again!“

Satyen and Suzanne Raja

Embrace what has been buried and shamed in your body for thousands of years.

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