As we get closer to Halloween, a holiday where we get to play in spaces very different from who we truly are, it begs the question: What masks do you wear when it comes to your eroticism? Masks can show up in so many different forms – to cover up shame about what you truly desire, to mask the fact that you have no idea what you desire or to hide that you’re overriding yourself in order to please your partner. If you’re recognizing that you are stifling your eroticism, know that you are not alone.
Let’s face it. Our society has offered us a single blueprint for our eroticism and it’s no surprise that we have a narrow understanding of our sexuality and erotic energy; typically, what we think of when we think about sex in our culture is very much Sexual Blueprint™ sex: genitals, nudity, penetration. Foreplay typically looks the same in every encounter, especially if you look at how sexuality is portrayed in entertainment media: a passionate makeout session before the screen fades to black.
If that’s truly what brings you pleasure and how you love to express yourself erotically, celebrate that! However, if you’ve worn the mask and performed the actions above as they’ve been laid out for you and are wondering why pleasure seems elusive, know that there are four other Blueprint Types that you get to play in that may feel more aligned to who you are: Energetic, Sensual, Kinky and Shapeshifter.
No two people are erotically wired in the exact same way even if they share the same Blueprint. The Erotic Blueprints™ offer us a language to help us understand our desires; the powerful side effect of having this language is that we stop feeling alone and/or broken. When every single person understands how they’re wired, erotic freedom becomes available for all!
Just as there is no single pathway for pleasure, there is also no single way to embody all of the other Blueprints. Turn-ons for the Energetic Blueprint™ are anticipation, tease and spaciousness; how that gets to show up will vary based on the person! Sensual Blueprints™ are turned on when all of their senses are ignited; just as the old adage states that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” the specifics of what this Blueprint considers a sensually delightful environment will vary from human to human. BDSM isn’t a requirement to be a Kinky Blueprint™ (and even if it were, there is so much variance in those preferences that there couldn’t possibly be one way to be Kinky!) Kinky individuals are simply turned on by what’s taboo for them! Shapeshifter Blueprints™ are turned on by it all and their needs can vary day by day and moment by moment; there is so much variance here, an encyclopedia series could be written about it. To add even more flavor to this, all of the Blueprints exist within us to varying degrees; how much you like to play in each of them and the order in which you prefer them is referred to as your “stack.”
The point here is that the Blueprints aren’t meant to box you in – to be another mask for you to wear; they’re meant to guide you to your most authentic erotic expression. They’re meant to set you free!
You get to lift the mask to reveal who you truly are (or intentionally put one on depending on how you like to play!) Understanding your Erotic Blueprint gives you the tools you need to fully come into yourself as an erotic being so that you can finally be free.
Are you ready to lift the mask of who you thought you were supposed to be so that you can finally be erotically free? Register for the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ Course today! This course is a deep dive into your pleasure so you can uncover the erotic being within you that is just bursting to awaken. With over 70 video trainings, Pleasure Mastery calls led by our highly-trained Erotic Blueprint coaches twice per month and several bonuses to deepen your learning, this is the comprehensive pleasure-based sex education specifically geared to help you understand how you’re uniquely erotically wired.
With your one-time payment of the course, you also receive lifetime access to the Erotic Freedom Club, our sex-positive online community that is full of humans just like you who are doing this work to free themselves from the boxes they’ve been placed in and become their authentic selves. Normally, this is a monthly membership but you get access for life as a bonus for saying yes to the course!
This lifetime access offer is only available for a limited time so if you already know that you’re a yes to diving all in on you and your pleasure, register for the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough course today!