You don’t know what you don’t know!
If you’re not regularly experiencing…
- Juicy, fulfilling intimacy
- Penetrating erotic fulfillment
- Your own Superpowers as a sexual being
- Confidence that you can have what you desire and deliver orgasmic delight to you lover(s), whenever you wish
It’s not your fault!
You’re not broken.
You just don’t know what you don’t know.
But, if you’re living with disappointment and dissatisfaction, or perhaps you have a great sex life and you crave even more pleasure, and you’re not taking the reins to create what you desire…
Then you have no one to blame but yourself!
There is so much information out there about having a better sex life, about creating a more satisfying relationship, there is no excuse for doing nothing.
However, there is so much out there, it can be confusing and overwhelming. I get that.
I coached clients for over 14 years about sex and intimacy before I uncovered a system that works for just about everyone.
I inspired a lot of transformation during that time, but the game changed when I uncovered the power of learning to speak, feed and heal people through their own unique Erotic Blueprint™.
You may not be aware of it, but you’ve got an Erotic Blueprint Type. You’ve likely got a primary, secondary and tertiary Blueprint stack.
Leaning your Blueprint Type is the first step on the path to creating consistent erotic satisfaction.
Once you know your Type, then it’s all about gaining the skills to
- Speak to your Blueprint in it’s own specific language of fulfillment
- Feed it with sex skills and practices that address its’ specific desires
- Heal shadow aspects of your Blueprint that are putting the brakes on your pleasure
Speaking to Your Erotic Blueprint:
Make a list of 5 words that describe your genitals, for example:
- Portal of Ecstasy
- Hot Pocket
Notice in your body when you read or say these words, which ones turn you on, which ones are neutral and which ones turn you off (Sorry if any of these descriptions offend you. Some phrases that revolt you, may be a deep turn on for others).
There are literally thousands of words to describe your juicy body bits and aspects of sexual interaction. When you learn your own turn on words and those of your lovers, you have just begun the process of Speaking to your Blueprints.
Other aspects of speaking to your Blueprints are:
- Body Language
- Vocal Tone
- Physical Congruence: does your body match what your words communicate
Speaking to each of the 5 Erotic Blueprint Types is an art!
There’s so much to discover.
Feeding the Blueprints:
Learning another sex technique is not the answer to creating a hot and juicy sex life!
If you’re an Energetic Type™ and your lover comes at you with direct genital touch, trying to get you to orgasm, this may cause you to completely shut down. It may even create trauma in your body and deep fear and resentment.
Is that what you want?
Each Blueprint Type has specific styles of touch that increase arousal and others that put on the brakes and shut down turn on.
Every bit of your sexual dissatisfaction might be tied to you and your amazing, loving partner doing the right techniques on the wrong person.
Lightly and very slowly hover your hand over your own or your lover’s forearm. Don’t touch the skin.
How does it feel?
Do you get tingles throughout your body and feel excitement and craving, or does it feel like bugs are crawling on you and you want to run away?
Now switch to a contouring, deep massaging touch on the forearm. Slow and penetrating…
Does your body say “Yum!” and you feel relaxation opening your body?
Or do you feel smothered or tense instead?
We’re trying 2 touches here. The first usually lights up an Energetic Type and the second stimulates arousal for a Sensual Type.
It’s time to expand your sexual awareness and begin to master the types of touch that truly create turn on for each Erotic Blueprint Type, don’t you think??
Healing the Blueprint:
This process can be quite complex, and too much for this Blog Post.
I can give you one of the first steps to healing your Blueprint.
When you get these signals from your body, begin to pay very close attention to signals from your body. When you feel gripping, tightness, shut down or dissociation, these are potentially smoke signals from your body that you are overriding your own needs or sense of safety.
Begin pausing in your intimate encounters and looking for what you truly need.
Safety is the foundation of being able to open to pleasure.
Setting boundaries and creating a very clear container for what’s acceptable and what’s not, allows you to feel safe, seen, heard and honored in your sexuality.
It can be intimidating, scary and disorienting to begin declaring boundaries and healing your Blueprint.
This is work that can radically alter your life for the better.
Own your experience of pleasure! Healing the Blueprint is one of the most empowering things that I and our clients have done to transform not only their sex lives, but their entire life.
Want to learn more?
If you desire to go deeper, fun, frequency and fulfillment are at your fingertips, when you discover the skills to feed, speak, heal and expand into orgasmic possibilities you didn’t even know were possible!
The Erotic Blueprints are a very deep system. Make sure you don’t miss the chance to uplevel your sex life! Discover more!