A few years ago, if people told me that connecting to my sexuality means empowerment, I wouldn’t have believed them. Now out of my own transformation, I coach people to be confident and connected through the lens of befriending their body and sexuality. It is not only possible but critical.
Growing up in a Chinese family, I was taught to be nice and hardworking. My family showed love by providing a comfortable life and funding for education. My parents rarely mentioned anything related to dating in our conversation, needless to say, sexuality.
When I started dating, I tended to hold back my expression and observed what others like and dislike. Knowing my partner’s needs became natural to me, but I didn’t pay much attention to mine. In short, I felt it was natural to put others’ needs first and ignore what makes me feel good.
There were times I expressed curiosity to explore more in sexuality. I didn’t have clear ideas but could feel my willingness to enrich and deepen intimacy. A few times, what I heard back from my partner was, “Everything is going well. What are you not satisfied with?” It was not dissatisfaction, but I felt the challenge to describe how I felt inside.
Looking back, this is how I would describe myself back then
1. I didn’t know what I wanted in intimacy and sexuality, other than what relationship pop-media culture presented
2. I didn’t have a language for desire and curiosity in intimacy
My gut feeling was that a relationship can be more nourishing, but I couldn’t put my words around what I needed.
I was waiting for the right person to appear to explore together. When the waiting was finally over, it was not in the way I dreamed.
What motivated me to connect with my body, sensuality and sexuality was a devastating breakup. I realized how much I have ignored my intuition and kept chasing what was shining on the outside.
The journey started with trying to fix and heal my pain. A pivotal point appeared when I realized I am actually wholesome and don’t need fixing. I may have heard this truth many times from teachers or mentors, but it was the first time I truly felt it within and entirely accepted it.
The realization popped as an inner knowing quietly and powerfully.
When the Erotic Blueprints™ entered my life, I knew this was the language I was missing to express my curiosity and desire on the physical, emotional, and psychological levels. It is simple yet profound. My journey continued, not because of the need to fix but to expand myself. I have my own full permission to explore turn-on, turn-off, boundary, and need.
The five core Types have a rich expression through our body, movement, and language. Knowing my body, sensuality, and sexuality enables me to enjoy and express myself like never before. I don’t need a regular prep talk to motivate my mind to speak up. Instead, I speak up from that inner connection with my body and pleasure.
Speaking from inner knowing makes me aware of my unique gift. I welcome all parts of me with compassion, no over analysis or judgment. I know erotic nature is my unique ingredient. With this awareness, I appreciate and respect others more. It is no longer about finding someone to complete me but creating a beautiful dance together with others. That is true empowerment.
Now as an Erotic Blueprint Coach™, I work with men and women to support their transformation. I cheer for them when they claim their voice and power by connecting with body, sensuality, and sexuality.
Lady Jin’s coaching integrates mind, body, heart, and erotic nature. I was a business director in a global media company before following my calling to become a coach. I hold an M.B.A degree and relate well with professionals in the corporate world and entrepreneurs.
Other certifications: Vita Sex, Love and Relationship Coach (900 hours+ training and practice, majoring in male & female sexuality), Tantra Educator, Accelerated Evolution Coach.
Who specifically do you like to help/serve? Men and women who want to break self-limiting beliefs, claim their erotic fulfillment and true confidence, expand their body and verbal language for pleasure.
Please visit www.theladyjin.com.
Erotic Blueprint, Female Sexuality, Male Sexuality, & Tantra
“Our compatibility has gone through the roof…how to be pleased. How to ask to be sexually pleased. How to please you (your partner) sexually. How to experience not only the orgasms we were already having and the ecstatic pleasure that we were already living, but now to have it magnify and multiply and go to whole new levels. It feels like we’re starting our relationship again!“
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