I created a new technique a few days ago when I was thinking about the two sponges inside the vagina.
My theory was that when stimulated in the same way these two spots would ignite with pleasure.
After trying it out with a partner, I learned that I was right.
Boy, was I right!
The G-Spot, which is sponge of erectile tissue at the roof of the vagina that engorges with fluid upon arousal, often likes to be stroked in a come-hither motion.
Think of the come-hither less as friction over the g-spot area and more like an anchor and pull.
If you insert your finger into your partner’s vagina with your hand palm up (they are laying on their back), then press your finger gently into the roof of her vagina and curl your finger in the come-hither position, you will likely find the correct spot. This area usually has a rough texture, kind of like the shell of a walnut.
Keep in mind that the G-spot is not as deep as you may think. It’s typically located closer to the entrance of the vagina.
The P.S.Spot is a spot that is an overlooked area of the female anatomy.
Otherwise known as the Perineal Sponge, this spot is a yummy wad of erectile tissue located between the vaginal wall and the anal wall.
Think of it like the g-spot only it’s located on the floor of the vagina.
If you insert your finger into your partner’s vagina with your hand palm DOWN (they are laying on their back again), then press your finger gently into the floor of her vagina and curl your finger in the come-hither. This action should put you in the correct location.
A big clue to making this a pleasurable experience for your partner:
As you seek to discover these spots inside your lover’s most intimate spaces, stay present to them.
Check in and see if where you are touching and how you are touching feels pleasurable.
Though you are seeking these specific locations and there may be trial and error, try not to have your probing feel like a gynecological exam.
Have you partner give you real time feedback, so you know what’s working and what’s not..
Here’s the new secret technique:
*Do this only after your partner is highly aroused and plenty lubricated (using a quality lubricant is always a great idea. Don’t be shy about lubes and, if you have challenges lubricating, you are not broken! Your system may simply not respond by getting you wet. Use the lube.)
Take your right hand palm up and insert your index finger into the vagina and then press gently into her g-spot area with your finger
Take your left hand palm down and insert your index finger into her vagina, then press gently into her P.S. spot area.
Now begin to move both of your index fingers in the come-hither motion.
Now you are stimulating the g-spot and p.s.-spot simultaneously!
I recommend you do the come hither motion slowly at first. Find your tempo that works for your lover. Changing speed and intensity can stimulate different levels of pleasure and possibly discomfort.
Also remember to anchor the tip of your fingers into the flesh so you are not using friction as much as you are using pressure and a back and forth motion rooted into the flesh.
Trust me, under the right circumstances, this one is a winner!
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