We recently shared a blog post about aligning with your desired experiences and outcomes by getting clear on your Core Desired Feelings (Danielle LaPorte) and how important the journey to achieving a goal is.
Amanda shared her own personal journey of breaking up with New Year’s resolutions and shifting her approach. Her journey to understanding herself deeply is inspiring. If you missed it, you can still read the full blog here.
This time of year there is just something in the air. If you pause for a moment and look around you, whether in your direct physical community or your online space, you will see people especially driven to chase something. They set high and lofty goals, and seem to be compelled to stop at nothing to achieve them.
Self-help books are flying off the shelves, gym enrollment is up (not to mention how crowded they are this time of year), and we often hear in casual conversation, “I’m giving up _______ (insert vice/bad habit/thing that might not be so great for you here), what are you giving up?”
It’s as if it’s just expected of everyone to join team “New Year New You” and jump on the resolution bandwagon. It’s not ironic that today, a day in January, is also National Vision Board Day. While these all can be great tools to use to anchor your desires, none of them really bring about real change.
So as the days and weeks roll by, the goals of the resolution makers are tossed by the wayside. These previously inspired people have given up on their goals in such a short time.
For some, it is that they’ve lost interest and moved onto the next thing. For others, the path to their goal was just too difficult. As some would say, the juice just wasn’t worth the squeeze.
But, what good is a goal if the whole process of getting there is dry and unfulfilling, or even worse, an awful painful experience?
It’s an interesting lie many of us have accepted as truth – that the journey to greatness HAS to be awful. That the martyr, the one who suffers most, gets the biggest reward.
The process and experience between setting the vision or the goal and getting to the finish line are what make up most of the experience. And it can be pleasurable and fulfilling – not all hustle and burnout.
The truth is, we simply need a greater understanding of ourselves.
Here at The Blueprint Breakthrough, instead of asking, “What are you giving up” we ask, “How can I make this moment more pleasurable?” In fact, “Put Pleasure First” is a core tenet of our culture and essential to the Erotic Blueprints® Framework.
Isn’t that incredible? Sit with that for a minute: “How can I make this moment more pleasurable?”
We teach how to do this in our Erotic Blueprints Breakthrough™ Course. Through guided games and practices we help you discover your personal map of arousal that brings you pleasure and ultimately leads to orgasmic satisfaction.
Are you having a little FOMO (fear of missing out) and feeling like you should be making resolutions, setting some goals, and depriving yourself of things?
If you are longing to truly find pleasure in 2023, then start by exploring what brings you pleasure. You can discover your own Erotic Blueprint™ type here with our In-Depth Erotic Blueprint Quiz©.
Why is it important to know your Blueprint? Because if you don’t, how will you know how to feed your Blueprint and care for your Erotic self?
It’s like this.
I was once gifted a plant. I brought it home and gave it so much love. It was beautiful and brought me so much joy so I wanted to give it the prime spot. The one that gets the most sunlight. I admired its unique and stunning leaves as I watered it almost daily, afraid to let the soil dry out for fear it might get thirsty and die.
To my complete devastation, its leaves began to yellow and wilt.
So I increased my care. Surely I could love this plant back to life. Sun, water, love. That’s what all plants need, right?
I was so wrong.
I later learned that each plant is unique in their needs. Some prefer LOTS of sun, its hot rays dancing off their outstretched arms begging for more. While others prefer to exist in the shadows, getting just teases and tastes of sunlight. And this is where they thrive.
The same is true for water. Some plants prefer to be soaked completely to the root so they can drink it all up to stand proud and tall. While others need dry spells to rejuvenate. They actually need this time in order to flourish.
It’s incredible, the similarities between plants and people.
Learning your Erotic Blueprint is much like getting a plant with a plant care guide – you discover how to feed your erotic self and make each moment more pleasurable, whether you are single, partnered or poly.
If you’re ready to ditch the resolutions and resolve to really understand yourself and your needs so you have your own “care guide” to bring pleasure into your life, take the first step – discover your Blueprint now.