Dear Jaiya,

I am 26 years old. My penis is too small. What can I do?

N


Dear N,

Okay. Who told you that your penis is too small? What are you comparing yourself too?

Is your penis too small compared to a porn star?

Is it too small compared to the size of your partner’s vagina?

Is it too small when flaccid? When erect?

In essence, why do you believe this?

The average male penis is 3-5 inches non-erect and 6-7 inches when erect.

That’s the average.

Did you know that the increase in size of your erection is based on your flaccid size?

For example, a man with a 3 inch non-erect penis will have a 100% increase in size during an erection, but a more “well” endowed man might only get a 75% increase.

Our bodies adjust based on scale.

I just have to talk about the fact that size doesn’t matter all that much.

Men think that we women would prefer a well endowed man.

The honest truth is that all of our bodies are different and we all fit together differently.

Most men think about the length of penis in inches, but it is said that girth is (or can be) more pleasurable for the recipient.

I personally do not prefer larger penises in girth, I like length because my cervix sits high in my vaginal canal.

I also like shorter penises with a curve because they hit my g-spot.

Regardless of size, there is a lot that you can do with positioning that can really help make experience of penetration more fulfilling.

It has nothing to do with your size.

Certain positions can help you get deeper penetration.

For instance, lift her legs up on your shoulders and put your hands under her butt while you penetrate her. (Check out my Kama Sutra video series with the Liberator stuff – you may be able to still find this on YouTube – there are lots of great ideas out there for penetration angles that can help.)

As a culture we have to get over this idea that sex is all about a penis in a vagina. Most vluva bodied people don’t even reach orgasm this way.

You can be an amazing lover using your hands, using a vibrator, using your tongue, and yes, using your penis, no matter it’s size.

A vulva bodied person’s arousal has a lot to do with it too.

The more aroused they are before penetration the more sensitive they are to touch and stimulation, the tighter the vaginal canal will become and the better you will fit together.

And yes, okay, so you want to make your penis bigger.

There are some things you can try.

There are Taoist Penis exercises that involve a daily practice of stretching, exercising your pelvic floor muscles, cultivating erotic energy and breathing.

There are also penis pumps out there, but my honest opinion is that aren’t really all that effective. (I have to admit I have yet to try one, and I don’t have a penis, so I need a volunteer).

There is also a radical concept that having a girlfriend who has multiple lovers will get your penis to grow. The idea is that the larger the penis is, the more of a chance you will have to get her pregnant.

So the man with the biggest penis wins in the game of fertility.

I have to say that I have multiple lovers and they always swear that their penises get bigger when they are with me.

Perhaps next time I’ll take before and after measurements from when we first start playing together to later on in our mating game.

All joking aside.

Honestly, just learn how to be an awesome lover, learn how to be present with your partner.

Learn how to love, be loved and share yourself in an authentic way and I assure you that your penis size won’t matter at all.

Jaiya

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