How to reclaim your RAW self…just like this Former Intelligence Officer did

by Blueprint Coach

Hi friend,

I want to ask you a question and I invite you to be really honest with yourself.

Do you feel like you can be authentic in every area of your life?

In the Erotic Blueprint™ community we talk about authenticity in the bedroom, but what if the erotic authenticity you’ve been cultivating in the bedroom didn’t stop with your sexuality?

What if that real, raw and unfiltered version of you got to play in all areas of your life?

Here’s what happened for me. Maybe you can relate.

For most of my life it didn’t feel safe to be my passionate, authentic self.

I pushed so hard to be perfect, playing the role I thought others wanted me to play (not too big, not too small), only to be left feeling empty and disappointed when I didn’t experience the fulfillment I desired.

I had a successful career as an Intelligence Officer in the Air Force, but no matter how much I accomplished, I felt I had to achieve more.

Lea in uniform(Yes – that’s me – all buttoned up…)

Honestly, I was on autopilot. I was so busy seeking love and approval from others that I didn’t even notice as I moved closer and closer to living each day as the worst version of myself.

I put a smile on my face and lived in the false belief that this misery was just part of life.

I was in a cycle of fight, flight and freeze.

I was super sensitive to criticism and would erupt in anger if things didn’t go my way.

I had no space in my schedule for spontaneity or pleasure.

My life was filled with people-pleasing, perfectionism and stress.

Later in life, I was a Peak Performance Coach on Tony Robbins’ team. I taught French, Spanish and Chinese as a professor at the Air Force Academy (all in the same semester). I even won the international title “Ms. Fitness America, Bikini Classic Champion.”

Yet with all these accomplishments, it was never enough.

This version of “success” didn’t give me what I craved: a life filled with joy where I was free to fully express who I am.

I achieved a lot, but never experienced fulfillment.

What I needed was not more external success, but a completely new way of being.

I needed to reclaim the child in me who was wild and free, who loved to dance and play. The one who loved to wear bright colors and chase the butterflies. The one who blew bubbles and relaxed in nature, feeling the soft grass beneath her back. She jumped in puddles and didn’t mind getting muddy.

I found mentors, coaches and tools to help me remember this playful child and invite her into all aspects of my everyday life. Through embodying her each day, I became my most authentic self.

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Reclaiming my authenticity led me to release sexual shame and fully express my erotic power.

Lea Newman(Things are a lot different today than my buttoned-up life…)

Many of us were taught that the erotic is performing sexuality in a certain way.

We learn that we have to be “sexy” in how we dress, act or speak without feeling our authentic desires. This lack of authenticity kills real pleasure and aliveness.

The erotic is not something you do. It is your essence.

The erotic is your life force, your primal, untamed, bliss-loving self.

The erotic is you unfiltered.

It is you before the world taught you to be afraid of what you want.

It is passion, not performance. It is your wildness. Your raw human animal.

This power doesn’t just live in the bedroom and isn’t limited to your relationship with your lover.

It is your whole life.

The erotic is your raw, real, unfiltered, unstuck self in every area of your life.

Here is one way to experience this erotic authenticity today. Are you open to playing with me?

It’s best to find a private space to do this exercise (alone in a room or maybe somewhere outside alone in nature).

Take a deep breath in and close your eyes.

Remember a time when you were a child. A time when you felt wild, playful, authentic and free.

I’d like to invite you to remember and embody that little one now.

In this memory, were they seated or standing? Were they moving or still? How did they breathe? How did they move? Did they say any specific phrases or make any sounds?

I invite you to do all of that now to the best of your ability.

As an example, when I first did this exercise I remembered a time when I was running around wild and free on the playground. As I ran around giggling I would sneak up behind people, shout “BOO!” and then keep running. Ha, ha! My little doggies were quite surprised as I chased them around the house, giggling and laughing like this, but boy was it fun to remember her and embody her even if for just a moment.

I know the stress, hurt and weariness you may be carrying.

I also know the vibrant, adventurous life that is possible for you on the other side. As a Transformational Coach, I support clients, just like you, so they don’t have to struggle for a decade searching for freedom like I did.

My immersive programs are part mystery school, part mastermind.

I help illuminate what no longer serves my clients and guide them to design a life that honors them in every way.

A life they truly love.

If you want to see if my work is right for you, I invite you to check out my recent webinar, Unstuck Yourself: Stop Surviving and Start Thriving.

After watching the webinar, if you still have more questions, please book a complimentary 15-minute Possibilities Call, so you can ask all your burning questions of me personally. I only have a few slots available every week for these complimentary calls, so make sure to book one now.

You have always been worthy of your dreams and desires. But we all need help to remember we have the power to create exactly what we want.

With the right support, you’ll have the confidence and clarity to express your full erotic authenticity in every area of your life.

It’s time to replenish your energy, take back your time and live with unfettered passion.

What if your life is a playground and all you need is someone to help you remember your deepest source of ecstasy…living in the truth of who you really are?

Are you ready to remember what it felt like to be playful, joyful, safe and unashamed?

Are you ready to stop surviving and start thriving?

If so, check out my free training and start enjoying self-love, confidence, abundance, authenticity and freedom. Your wild, erotic life is waiting.

With Pleasure,

Lea Newman is a Life Transformation Coach and Founder of Unstuck Yourself™️. Her passion is helping her clients break free from survival mode, so they can thrive in every part of their life. She is the author of You Healthier Now, Small Steps to Big Changes in Your Health and Wellness and Unstuck Yourself.

She served in the U.S. Air Force and was a professor of Spanish, French and Chinese at the Air Force Academy. Her love of personal transformation also led her to serve as a Peak Performance Coach on the Tony Robbins team.

But her greatest accomplishment is living a life of joy and adventure. She now travels the country in her RV, coaching inspiring clients around the world, and squeezing the juice out of life each and every day.

Lea is one of our Master Trainer £rotic Blueprint Coaches™ and is offering this opportunity to work with her directly in her immersive training. If you choose to work with Lea (she is awesome and amazing), we will make a small commission from your investment in her training.)


“Our compatibility has gone through the roof…how to be pleased. How to ask to be sexually pleased. How to please you (your partner) sexually. How to experience not only the orgasms we were already having and the ecstatic pleasure that we were already living, but now to have it magnify and multiply and go to whole new levels. It feels like we’re starting our relationship again!“

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