The Myth of Too Much: An exploration of the Shapeshifter shadow

by Pleasure Team

July 22nd is Lion’s Share Day, a day for asking for – and getting – more than your fair share. After all, the lion’s share of anything divided among different parties is the biggest share of whatever is being divided! Which Blueprint Type™ is all about the more?

Why, the Shapeshifter Blueprint™ of course!

The Shapeshifter Blueprint has a huge capacity for pleasure because their turn-ons span all across the other four Blueprints: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual and Kinky. A Shapeshifter fully in their power would be able to embody all of the superpowers of every Blueprint. It would seem that there would be no stopping these wild, chaotic, mesmerizing humans.

However, just as with any of the other Blueprints, Shapeshifters have their shadow side, too. Shapeshifter shadow can show up in a variety of ways. Because they play in all of the Blueprints, they can actually experience the shadows of all of them as well. A shadow specific to the Shapeshifter is that of people-pleasing both inside and outside of the bedroom. Because Shapeshifters are fluent in all of the Blueprint Types, they can shapeshift into being the Blueprint of whoever the person is that they’re engaging with. Because their desire and their need is to play in all of the Blueprints, shapeshifting to be a specific Blueprint for another often leaves them starving for pleasure.

Another shadow of the Shapeshifter – and the more pertinent one to Lion’s Share Day – is the story of being “too much” and the emotions that arise with it. Fear can arise when there’s concern over losing love over it. Shame can arise, particularly when you’ve been socialized to be small. It can be challenging for a Shapeshifter Blueprint to ask for all that they need because they’re afraid of being too much.

However, just as with any shadow, simply naming them can be a pathway for massive healing and ownership of who you truly are. Until you name it, the shadows actually remain in the shadows and can’t be addressed. When you name it, you gain a better idea why you play small when it comes to asking for what you want or even daydreaming about what you could have. Naming it brings the shadow into your awareness – into the light.

The truth of the matter is that when it comes to fully being who you are, there is no such thing as too much. “Too much” is a lie. When it comes to involving others in your pleasure, there is only consent – what another human is available to provide and what they’re not available to provide. Them not being able to provide what you desire doesn’t make you “too much” in any way, shape or form.

If you struggle with people-pleasing, whether inside or outside of the bedroom, a good start to owning all of you is simply to become conscious of the actions you take: who are you taking that action for? There’s no shame in doing something for someone else, especially when you’ve been caring for yourself so much that you’re giving from your own overflow!

Consider this day to give yourself permission to ask for exactly what you want and how you want it. What you consider to be the lion’s share of what you’re asking for may just be you simply asking for what you need… and that can never actually be too much.

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Additionally, you get premium access to the Erotic Freedom Club, our sex-positive online community where you can connect with others who are doing this work right alongside you to own their bigness and take the lion’s share of life; this is also a fantastic place to get your questions answered between Pleasure Mastery calls, especially if you’re a little bit shy about showing up on those calls at this time.

We understand that when making this decision for yourself that challenges can arise, particularly if you recognize the people-pleasing shadow in yourself. If you know that this is likely a great next step in owning your allness, but have questions you’d like answered before you officially say yes, book a call with one of our Passion Liasons today! We are here to answer those burning questions you have and assist you in making the right decision for you – independent from what might be the best decision for those around you. After all, isn’t it time for you to put you first?

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