Becoming the Ultimate Lover

by Pleasure Team

There’s a holiday for everything these days…

And when you think about it, that’s pretty great!

It just means human beings love any reason to celebrate, right?

If you’re familiar with how we roll at The Blueprint Breakthrough, you know we love to celebrate! We revel in opportunities to celebrate the wins, sprouts, and breakthroughs people traveling this journey of erotic expansion share with us.

On February 17th in the United States, we celebrate “Who Shall I Be?” day…

What a fantastic question that is!

The question becomes even more multi-layered and fascinating when we think about who we want to be as fully expressed erotic beings.

What would that look like for you?

What if you could become the Ultimate Lover?

What would being the ‘Ultimate Lover’ even mean?

We can share some ideas that WE have about that…

And we’ll start with a few hints.

Hint #1: It’s not about special erotic tricks or techniques.

Anyone who has spent time in a long supermarket line has probably seen headlines gracing the covers of popular fashion and culture magazines promising secret sexual techniques that will blow your lover(s) over with your skill…

But what if it’s not about that?

In fact, the ‘right’ sexual technique used at the wrong time with a person who might not actually be into that technique may completely shut that person down, rather than heighten their pleasure.

There is no ‘one size fits all’ technique guaranteed to WOW every single lover you may have throughout your lifetime.

Every single person’s map of arousal and turn-on is as unique as their fingerprints!

Hint #2: It’s not about how many lovers you have or have had, or how frequently you have sex.

Having many lovers (or many lovers in your sexual history) does not guarantee that you will become the Ultimate Lover. That’s not a requirement at all! Anyone can become the Ultimate Lover, whether they’ve had no partners, one partner, a few, or many – ‘numbers’ have nothing to do with erotic sophistication.

In The Blueprint Breakthrough world, it’s not uncommon for us to hear people in their 40s and beyond say something to the effect of, “I thought I knew about sex… I realize I’m just beginning to learn!”

As Jaiya says in the Netflix series Sex, Love and goop, “Our culture teaches us it’s not okay to not know about sex.”

We want to dismantle the shame around not knowing everything there is to know about sex and emphatically state it’s okay to not know about sex.

And while we’re at it, we’d like to add that there is no ‘normal’ amount of times you ‘should’ be having sex per week, per month, per year. We get SO much pressure around that from this study or that study in our culture, don’t we?

And often, these types of studies have very limited ways of thinking about sex – they may only be referring to penetrative sex, for example.

What if sex is MUCH more vast and expansive than that?

Hint #3: It may not even be about having a lover or partner in your life currently at all!

Being deeply erotically attuned begins with YOU.

You can be solo in your life currently, either by intentional choice or circumstance and still be the Ultimate Lover.

Our ability to be a lover to others, if we choose that, is inextricable from our ability to be our own best lover. When we know our own desires and turn-ons intimately, we are that much more able to guide partners and lovers into our deep erotic world.

As we commit to unearthing our erotic selves through the practice of self-pleasure, we learn to stop ‘going through the motions’ or following a sexual script. We discover what truly lights us up, what feels ‘meh’, and where our boundaries are.

Knowing ourselves as erotic beings is fundamental to sharing epic erotic experiences with others.


Who shall we be as Ultimate Lovers?

Discovering your Erotic Blueprint Type™ is a key element of this… but there’s so much more.

You may have taken the Erotic Blueprint Quiz© and discovered your Erotic Blueprint(s)®, which is amazing! And yet, the journey is filled with endless possibilities for really living into your Blueprint(s) in a way that shatters the pleasure ceiling and enriches your life in ways you may have never thought possible.

This has been the experience of countless people who have taken the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ Course.

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We also have something special coming up where we will say a lot more about this…

Stay tuned for details.

In the meantime…

Fill your life with pleasure!

“Our compatibility has gone through the roof…how to be pleased. How to ask to be sexually pleased. How to please you (your partner) sexually. How to experience not only the orgasms we were already having and the ecstatic pleasure that we were already living, but now to have it magnify and multiply and go to whole new levels. It feels like we’re starting our relationship again!“

Satyen and Suzanne Raja

Embrace what has been buried and shamed in your body for thousands of years.

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