I love teaching sex skills and erotic secrets to clients and showing them what’s erotically possible. From tantric practices to sensual touch exercises, to techniques for increased pleasure with intercourse all the way to kink practices to play safely with psychological and physical taboo.
There’s so much possibility, I’m still always learning, I’ll never stop learning…
But here’s the tricky thing about sex skills, and why learning a new technique is not enough to create sexual success and fulfillment.
If you’re versed in our Erotic Blueprints™ methodology, then you know, if you use the wrong technique for a particular Blueprint, it won’t work.
In fact, a masterful technique used for the wrong Blueprint Type may create displeasure, frustration, shut down and even resentment!
I know that’s probably not the result you’re after.
So, what’s the answer?
I often say that if I could only teach one thing, it would be presence and awareness.
Hands down the most important skills to sex mastery is mastering this.
Cultivating presence and awareness allows you to develop intuition to pull from your bag of tools, practices, and tricks; you know just what to do to build connection, anticipation, arousal, and excitement, so you can have the mind-blowing sex you desire.
It’s being able to have such acute awareness that you can “read” the other person.
This cuts to the heart of the matter. This skill, if you master it, will help with all the other areas of sexual connection.
Yes, it does take time and practice, and would you like to be an erotic master?
You know what?
I’m going to give you a quick exercise to help you get the idea of awareness in your body, help you experiment and play – it’s really important.
You can do this on your own or with your partner. Decide quickly who will touch and who will be being touched.
Close your eyes and bring your awareness to your fingertips. Simply notice what is there… notice sensations both outside and inside.
Maybe you can feel your heart beating, or maybe you sense a tingle… just notice.
What do you feel?
Now bring your awareness to your genitals. Just notice. No judgment, no right or wrong, simply notice.
What did you feel?
Okay, now bring your awareness back to your fingertips and begin to touch your partner.
If you do not have a partner begin to touch your own arm.
Go slow, just use your fingertips and see how much awareness you can bring to the touch and your feelings. Again, it’s not if you’re doing it right or wrong, it’s just about noticing.
What is the temperature of their skin? How does it feel? Are your fingertips receiving pleasure?
Notice the difference. Does your touch change when you think about receiving pleasure versus giving pleasure?
If you’re receiving the touch from a lover, did you notice a shift? Is it more pleasurable when they are focusing on pleasure?
Remember there is no right or wrong technique. It’s just staying present and aware.
Do you see how increasing your presence could add more pleasure?
That was too quick, I know, so take some time later and practice on your own.
Do you see how presence can make the difference between okay sex and amazing sex?
By learning sex skills and secrets and getting the sex education you always wanted but never had, you will boost confidence and satisfaction and allow yourself to discover new possibilities for arousal and orgasm.
Here’s to a life filled with Erotic Mastery and ever-increasing Erotic Intelligence!
Fill your life with pleasure,