By Ian Ferguson and Tania Dakka
Days. Hours. Moments.
The time with the ones we love.
The mere seconds, it seems, with time to ourselves.
Mindless scrolling through our devices, feeding our vices.
They all seem so fleeting.
Especially when we are busy feeding our nervous system’s addiction to dopamine by picking up our phones every 12 minutes.
Our task-ticking society is so driven by forward momentum that it makes life feel like it’s literally flying by us.
We look out the window and winter has become spring in the blink of an eye.
But there’s a solution…
A solution that is soooo yummy that you’ll CRAVE it before you crave your phone.
The solution?
Touch!
Gentle. Soft. Deep. Intense. Quick. Penetrating. Bold. Bonding. Compassionate.
No matter what sort of touch you prefer, touch can be your key to dropping deep into sensation, remembering pleasure and slowing time.
1) Hugs
We love a good hug. Bear hug or the kind that is gentle and allows you moments to breathe and share the energy and fragrance of your hug bunny.
Hugs release oxytocin… the antidote to dopamine, if you will.
They help us form and deepen bonds with each other.
They pull us out of our heads and into the moment of connection and belonging that our bodies crave.
Do not despair, however, if you don’t have a partner. Self-hugs are a real thing. So real, in fact, we encourage you to self-hug even if you DO have a partner. Give yourself the care you deserve.
2) Massage
Dating back before 3000B.C., massage has long been utilized as a means of healing.
Today, we’re going to use it to slow time to a crawl, bringing us back to self, back to pleasure.
If you’re not sure how to give a good massage, there are tutorials all over the internet, but the important part is to read your partner’s responses as you connect with their body.
Connection. Present connection is one of your most powerful guides in giving deeply satisfying massage.
And…of course…finding your own pleasure in the giving of massage will make it juicy for you too.
ENJOY!
By the way, the art of self-massage is real and it’s UH-MAYZING.
So, if you’re riding solo, don’t think you get a pass on this method of time slowing/parasympathetic nervous system mastery.
You, too, can enjoy getting oiled up and getting lost in your own touch
3) Intimate and Erotic Touch
Quality intimate touch can lead to ecstatic, orgasmic states.
Connection to self, to others and to the cosmos!
Erotic solo touch can provide deep nurturing, when you learn to become your own best lover.
Indulge and discover how you want to be made love to by exploring solo.
For the partnered people, what is “intimate and erotic” to you may not be “intimate and erotic” to your partner, so check in and explore the touch that turns you both on.
Encourage them by commenting and requesting more of the things you love. Tell them what feels good about the touch, so they know how to give you what you want. Reward them with compliments when they get it “Oh So Right!”
And give them the same courtesy. Discover what opens their flesh to deeper surrender and find out how to provide it exactly as they want it (within your own boundaries, of course).
Drop in daily to this medicine of intimate touch.
And find out how much more rewarding life can be.
Until next time…
Fill your heart with love and your life with pleasure,
Ian Ferguson and Tania Dakka
