One of the biggest complaints I get is that foreplay gets skipped.
I’m here to help you become a better lover; so how do you give the best foreplay ever?
Tip #1- Know Your Partner’s Erotic Blueprint™ Type
Here’s a contradiction right out of the gate…
Not everybody wants a lot of foreplay. As a matter of fact, it annoys some people.
So your first step in any sexual encounter is to find out what your partner’s Erotic Blueprint Type is.
What’s an Erotic Blueprint you ask?
There are 5 Blueprint Types:
Energetic Type™: Loves anticipation, space, and tease. They will need foreplay techniques like eye gazing, breathing together, light touch, hovering touch and space between you. Slowness can be key to building arousal for the Energetic Type.
Sensual Type™: Loves all senses being stimulated, full body sensation and tons of foreplay. They will need to luxuriate. Foreplay could be the main event and last for hours. Try music, great smells, feeding each other, massage, hot baths, candles, slow dancing and more.
Sexual Type™: Loves sex, penetration, and nudity. With a Sexual, too much foreplay could actually turn them off. You want to get to the point with genital touch a bit faster than you might with other Erotic Blueprint Types.
Kinky Type™: Loves to play with the taboo. You’ll need to know if your Kinky partner is turned on more by the psychology of playing power games or the use of intense sensation or constriction, or perhaps they love both styles. Try handcuffs, spanking, psychological power games, Bonadassage or role-play. Always get training from a professional, if you are doing sensation play that could be harmful. There are lots of ways to get hurt, and not in the fun way that some Kinkies love.
Shapeshifter Type™: Loves all of the above and endless amounts of it. You’ll need to check in with them about what kind of mood they’re in. They may want it all.
Becoming a master is about practicing and mastering distinctions. Understanding the Turn Ons and Turn Offs of each of the Erotic Blueprint types is like getting the secret decoder ring to becoming a sex life superhero and claiming your own sexual satisfaction and fulfillment.
Find out your type and begin the journey at www.EroticBreakthrough.com.
When you read through these descriptions, you likely saw yourself in one or more of the Blueprint types. What if your partner does not have the same desires as your type?
Can you see how not understanding your lover’s Erotic Language in the bedroom can be an issue?
Empower yourself and discover how to feed, speak, heal and expand your own and your lover’s Erotic Blueprint.
Tip #2 – Keep Yourself Turned On
Most likely you will NOT have the same Blueprint type as the person you are arousing, so you may find yourself either wanting to move forward too quickly, too slowly or getting distracted.
This is the worst experience for your partner.
To keep yourself focused, keep tuning in to what turns you on while at the same time feeding their Blueprint. These are skills worth practicing!
I also see people who get anxiety around performance and they focus too much on their partner’s pleasure and lose all of their own.
The trick here is to weave in and out of your own pleasure and their pleasure.
Want to blow your lover’s mind? Learn to stay in your own pleasure through being turned on by your partner: turned on by their body, their smell, their hair, their eyes, their movement, their pleasure!
You get bonus points when you can experience pleasure through feeding their Erotic Blueprint™.
Tip #3 – Hygiene is Part of Foreplay
I have to be honest here. I’ve worked with thousands of singles and hundreds of couples and one of the things that they tell me over and over and over again is that the reason why they don’t want to have sex is because their partner either has bad breath, bad body odors, or they don’t clean “down below”.
I’m not telling you that you have to spray yourself with air fresheners (as a matter of fact, don’t do that, they’re hormone disruptors) or use a lot of perfume or cologne.
What I am telling you is to take some time to freshen up.
Trim your nails and wash your hands (your partner’s nether parts will thank you). Using some essential oils, like frankincense or ylang ylang, can also add that extra touch.
Here’s a Bonus Tip:
Find smells your lover likes and you can anchor the smell to pleasure and orgasm!
Every time they smell that smell it can be an arousal trigger.
For a Sensual Blueprint Type, this piece is a must! A bad smell will turn them off faster than thinking of grandma.
These tips, especially understanding the Erotic Blueprint™ Types will give you a great foundation for creating amazing foreplay and seduction.
Take the Erotic Blueprint Quiz at www.EroticBreakthrough.com.
Better yet, have your lover take the quiz and start one of the hottest, most revealing conversations you may have ever had about sexual satisfaction!
I look forward to seeing you on the path,
Fill your life with pleasure,