If you’ve been following our weekly blog posts, you’ve probably gathered that here at The Blueprint Breakthrough, we loooooooooove any reason to celebrate!
Fortunately, we find something to celebrate every single day.
And these days, you can count on some type of holiday, somewhere in the world, every day – 365 days a year!
We recently learned that March 15th is True Confessions Day…
Now THAT’S juicy!
(And we obviously couldn’t pass that one up.)
What would your true confession be?
Or, put another way, What do you desire that you’re nervous to share?
Let’s face it.
Our truest desires live in our softest places…
The most tender, vulnerable places.
So many of us have held a desire, or desires, close to the vest. Deep within the most secret chambers of our hearts (and bodies.)
Imagine for a moment that you are in a completely private space – or, if you happen to be in a completely private space as you read this, you can treat this as a short exercise.
Now, get quiet for a moment, and bring your attention to your breath.
Your body.
Your heart.
What’s arising for you, when you ask your authentic self what you MOST desire?
Can you feel that?
What body sensations accompany that desire? Thoughts? Images? Emotions?
And if you’re feeling really brave… speak that desire aloud.
No one else has to know right now.
Even so, for some of us, speaking our deepest desires even to ourselves can feel vulnerable.
If you spoke your desire or desires aloud just now, what happened for you as you uttered those words?
Any number of things can happen when we get really clear about – and admit – what we truly desire.
Sometimes we are flooded with immediate judgments from the mind. Here’s a common one:
I can’t have that. How could I possibly have that? How is X, Y, and Zed going to happen if I’m [fill-in-the-blank here]?
Or, perhaps we instantaneously attempt to talk ourselves out of our desire, even as we are desiring something with our entire being!
It’s not unusual for our authentic desires to conflict with a whole lot of conditioning we’ve internalized, whether that conditioning comes from our families of origin, communities, religious backgrounds, or current circumstances.
After all, one of the oldest archetypal stories we’ve always had as a collective is the Desire vs. Duty narrative. That story has shown up in everything from ancient mythology to modern day movies. It’s a thread that can be deeply rooted in our consciousness.
Just know that speaking your desire does not mean that you have to act on your desire at this time – or ever!
The act of acknowledging your desires is simply a way of holding yourself in love, acceptance and compassion.
Emotions can arise as we admit what we really want as well – all kinds of emotions!
Some pleasurable, some not so much.
For example, you might feel some shame around your desires…
But also a curious mixture of electricity and excitement.
Pay attention to what’s happening in your body as you get in touch with what you desire, and do your best to allow space for ALL of it – everything that desire brings up for you.
As we begin to give our desires room to breathe, we often discover that they are beautiful and sacred.
Again, this is true whether we ever enact those desires or not.
The desires of our deep heart and soul are so often our map – they point us to what would bring fulfillment for us in our lives.
It goes without saying that this is true of our erotic desires as well!
If you find yourself with a desire for more pleasure, more erotic aliveness, more intimacy and connection with yourself and/or your partner(s)…
Then we believe the reason that desire is there is because the fulfillment of the desire is possible.
As we always say, pleasure is your BIRTHRIGHT!
The ability to embrace your erotic desires is a critical step in being able to communicate those desires to your lover(s).
We’re not saying that communicating your desires to a lover or partner won’t feel scary…
It probably will.
But the good news is that there are many tools to support you every step of the way in that process.
We’ve seen countless erotic explorers experience life-changing transformation using the tools of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ Course.
This includes people going through the Course solo, people with partners, and people in all kinds of relationship structures – monogamous and non-monogamous or polyamorous alike.
It includes people of all sexual orientations and gender identities and expressions.
You don’t have to be actively having sex (whatever that means for you) to tap the creative energy of your eroticism…
Embracing your erotic desires is just a way of saying ‘Yes’ to life – and trusting that Yes.
So what’s YOUR True Confession?
Start there…
And see what kind of magic unfolds!
