How learning I was a Shapeshifter™ transformed my sex life
By Anna Preston
Growing up, I was sexually frustrated and I couldn’t figure out what was wrong.
I’d grown up in a hyper-repressive religious culture where shame and secrecy reigned when it came to sex.
It took me many years of therapy, being involved in The Vagina Monologues over the course of 9 years, and working on empowering myself as a sexual being before I was able to overcome my conditioning.
And yet, there were still pieces missing…
I can remember never feeling like I was having enough sex OR if I was having sex, I would be left feeling like I was starving when we were through. I thought it must somehow be my fault.
Some of my dark thoughts of the time were things like:
“I must not be normal.”
“There’s something wrong with me.”
“Why can’t I ever be satisfied?”
I felt, in a phrase, “Too Much.”
I don’t know if I can communicate the heaviness of the phrase “Too much.”
It dimmed me, not only sexually, but all over. Even in the times when I was having great sex (even fun or silly sex) I still had that belief with every kiss and touch.
And, of course, I feared that this feeling was permanent. I’ve always been a hopeful person, however, so I kept doing my best to learn and try to make things better.
“Really, I’m not weird or broken???”
I was introduced to Jaiya and the Erotic Blueprints™ through one of my mentors. My mind was blown!
I remember how excited I was by what Jaiya was teaching me!
I can still feel the champagne bubbles of happiness sparkling through me when I think of what it was like to learn about the Erotic Blueprints for the first time.
Suddenly I wasn’t just slogging through a quagmire of darkness with my hands cupped over a flickering flame of hope.
My hope was being fed gloriously, like a feast.
Things started shifting for me right away.
What I discovered: I related to every single Blueprint Type. That was the big clue that I am a Shapeshifter™.
The Shapeshifter Blueprint™ speaks all of the erotic languages fluently. Turned on by all of the playful possibilities of every Blueprint (Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, and Kinky), we desire lots of stimulation, erotic play and varieties of experiences.
Our superpowers include having multiple orgasms, different kinds of orgasms, and being excellent lovers since we’re able to play in every Blueprint.
At first, I didn’t want to be a Shapeshifter!
Shapeshifters seemed to be the thing I dreaded: Being “Too Much.”
But what I came to embrace is that Shapeshifters aren’t overly complicated…
We’re just incredibly erotically sophisticated!
Feeling “Too Much” was part of the Shapeshifter Shadow, and as such, could be worked on and healed, which I did with Jaiya’s help and the support of the Erotic Freedom Club™ community that she created.
I went from shifting into whatever my partner’s Blueprint was in order to please them, to taking a stand for my own pleasure by voicing my needs.
Through doing the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ Course, I learned…
- What my needs were and how to ask for them to be met by a partner
- How to meet my own needs
- How to not give away the power of my pleasure to others
- How to touch in each Blueprint
- How each Blueprint gets turned on and how they shut down (what turns them off)
I also learned different techniques for feeding my Blueprint such as…
- Making sure to ask for different types of touch from a partner
- Engaging in my local BDSM community to feed my Kinky Blueprint
- Learning about different sensual massage techniques
- Finding great Blueprint-specific toys and tools to use for play
With every new piece of information, I felt the thrill of having the puzzle pieces finally fitting together.
My sexual beingness completely transformed and I found a vocabulary to communicate my needs.
Prior to learning about the Erotic Blueprints, I had no way of knowing how important it was to have a language and a system to describe myself and others.
By having this language, I became an even better lover. Since I can now connect better with partners, the possibilities for erotic play are endless!
My erotic learning and exploration continue to this day. There are so many avenues to explore and go deeper into the wonderland of sexuality.
Sex is infinite, and as a Shapeshifter, I want to taste, touch, and experience all of it.
I still have days when things are less than awesome. There are still plenty of areas for me to continue to grow as an erotic being. The difference is that I’m no longer stumbling hopelessly in the dark.
To anyone out there who is struggling, or to any Shapeshifters who are starving and feeling “Too Much,” I want you to know that there is hope.
The feeling of being gloriously, riotously, fantastically fed? It exists. It’s real. It’s possible. I’ve experienced it and you can too.
Anna Preston is a certified Erotic Blueprint Coach™ who helps singles and couples learn more about their erotic natures through the Erotic Blueprints™ in order to help them create hot, juicy, joyful, and thriving sex lives.
Anna resides in Utah and can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.