Where attention goes, energy flows.
Have you heard this saying?
If not, ponder that for a while.
When it comes to our sex lives, we so often sense that more is possible. Some innate part of us knows that when we tap our deep erotic nature, we can experience a life of pleasure beyond our wildest dreams.
But maybe we are just setting out on this journey of erotic expansion… and we want more.
It’s natural to focus on what we are lacking.
From an evolutionary standpoint, the human brain is designed to focus on the negative – what we DON’T have. Dialing in on what we lack is the brain’s way of ‘scanning the horizon’ for threats. It’s the same reason that we can get ten compliments, but will remember the ONE stinging criticism amidst all that praise – and forget about those other ten compliments!
The human brain and nervous system are geared to ensure safety and survival, and they do this by honing in on what is WRONG.
But by now, many of us have at least heard the term neuroplasticity once or twice! Just what does that mean??
The Department of Neurology and Neurosurgery at the Montreal Neurological Institute writes:
“Neuroplasticity can be viewed as a general umbrella term that refers to the brain’s ability to modify, change, and adapt both structure and function throughout life and in response to experience.”
[Source: https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2017.01657/full]
Put simply, we can consciously change the way our brains respond to our environment.
So where does this all fit in with the journey of erotic expansion?
If we want to experience all the endless pleasure possibilities life has to offer, we can make a conscious shift from lack to gratitude.
If we can just make this small tweak in our perspective, we will see that our lives are already SO rich in pleasure!
The taste of our favorite foods.
The exquisite sensory experience of listening to our favorite song.
A hot shower on a cold winter morning.
A loving exchange with a partner, or friend.
Maybe even a touch of rebellion or playfulness now and then…
We are built for pleasure, and pleasure is everywhere!
Pleasure is our birthright.
Spiritual communities and teachers often speak of joy… but if we’re struggling, joy can sometimes seem like a pretty tall order. When things are hard, joy can feel inaccessible.
But the good news is…
PLEASURE is always accessible!
Even five minutes of pleasure – whatever that means for YOU.
When we are feeling discouraged about our sex lives, we can start with small steps… and this often means simply bathing in gratitude for what’s already there.
Where attention goes, energy flows.
The more we focus on the pleasures that are already present in our lives, the more we lay the foundation for endless erotic expansion. When we place our attention on gratitude for what we DO have, our abundance of pleasure multiplies.
So, thank your brain for trying to keep you safe! Honor that your brain is doing its job in focusing on what’s wrong… and then kindly tell it you are going to try something new.
Such as gratitude and abundance as your entry point for the wildest erotic expansion possible.
If you’re excited to see what’s erotically possible for you, we invite you to dive into our Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ Course – the pleasure possibilities await you!
Give it a try and see what happens!
Ian, Jaiya and The Pleasure Team
