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Kinky Fairy Godmother | Sex and Desire Coach | Sexological Bodyworker

Do you have erotic desires that are exciting, but fall outside the mainstream?

Perhaps you're not ready to call yourself “kinky”, but you’d love to explore your desire more deeply and get more creative with how you connect with yourself and others sexually.

This work is profound. The truth of your desire can bring you to feeling confidence deep in your body, owning and communicating what you want and need without shame, and feeling thrillingly empowered in what you say YES and NO to.

What might it feel like to fully unleash your sexual creativity and celebrate your desires with freedom and wild joy?

Even if you feel hesitant or shy, you can cultivate an authentic, full-bodied experiencing of your eroticism! As a sex coach who has helped clients overcome barriers to free sexual expression since 2017, I’d be honored to support your unique journey to greater joy, pleasure, and confident connection.

Some fun facts about me: My Erotic Blueprint is Kinky Shapeshifter, I used to study mime, I love complex teamwork, and my undergrad degree is in Astronomy and Astrophysics.

If we work together, I’ll look forward to getting to know all the parts that form your gloriously unique self. It’s that unique self that will reveal how you can experience pleasure - and all the gifts of Desire - in a way that’s fully yours.

LGBTQIA+ friendly. Polyamory-friendly. I’m aware of white supremacy’s impact and I value BIPOC folks’ experiences and needs. Neurodiversity-friendly.

I love working with maybe-kinky or definitely kinky folks who don’t feel resolved about their desires (eg, perhaps you feel guilty or scared of hurting someone). Perhaps you’re working through trauma with a trauma therapist and are seeking additional sexuality support. I especially resonate with cerebral, quirky, and self-aware clients who have transgressive or unusual desires (eg, consensual non-consent, age play, sneezing fetish, etc, on top of the full range of eroticism). 

We might be a great fit if you resonate with some of the following:
- You thrive with encouragement, clarity, gentleness and playfulness
- You’d benefit from experiential or hands-on work
- You’ve got trauma and you’ve processed it or are currently working with a trauma expert

We’re not a great fit if:
- You need a confrontational coach who will whip you into shape
- You have unprocessed trauma that will impede our work and you are NOT also working with a trauma expert

Testimonials:

“I have loved my sessions with Julia so much so far! I had been going through a hard time with my partner and wasn’t feeling as satisfied as I wanted to be, especially when we went through a period of long distance.

At first, she started with a quick exercise of what my ideal desire would be for our connection time together before he left again and I was able to get super clear on my ideal experience and how I desired to feel.

The process felt great in and of itself, and then I was able to communicate what I had learned to my partner and we did it! It was exactly what I had been craving and desiring, and he was fully able to provide it for me and us! Yay! This would not have been possible without her coaching & support.

Julia had shared some personal experiences & challenges that she had gone through in her partnership and was on the other side of and I immediately desired to receive her support so that I could get to the other side more easefully.

She has been taking me through The deVinery Method and it’s been so insightful and helpful! I have loved the breakthroughs I’ve had and getting to experience these processes! This program is so fun, exciting and deep!

Julia is amazing! I love her energy, and I feel so safe with her holding space for me. I feel like I can truly share anything and everything that I have going on in my life or in my fantasies and that she will accept me and celebrate me!

I know she is a loving, joyful, judgement free space for me to be all of me in, which is allowing me to explore new experiences and curiosities. I feel so seen and understood and am so grateful for her beautiful program. I highly recommend Julia & these sessions!”

- Laura

"Being perceived for who you are generates euphoria!

I was working with my sexological bodyworker, Faye, when I got a new partner, and it felt like my sexuality was suddenly changing or morphing. I was having a sort of crisis of sexual identity, and Faye highly recommended Julia as someone to work with on connecting with my desires and my fantasies.

Julia creates a secure container that makes it okay to ask big questions about who you are and what you want, even if you don’t know what the answers will be. As someone on the asexual spectrum, I have always found it confusing when my sexual side comes out, especially when it decides to do something new. It’s bewildering to be both a person who can easily do without partnered sex for five years and then suddenly, with a new person, I want to devour sexuality whole and invent new kinks. We had to adapt some things to make sense to me, but Julia was totally prepared and able to roll with it.

I love that I always felt safe to be vulnerable and strange and very myself and not stigmatized in any way. I spent my adolescence in the Bible Belt, and that did not do me any favors concerning the development of my sexuality. I think a lot of the work we did here actually helped me clear out some of my internalized shame, something I’ve been working on for a long time but only making slow progress on before all of this.

Julia is very good at checking in and following up, which was good because it reminded me to let the things I was learning percolate and not push them too far to the back of my mind. The imaginarium work has been really interesting, and I want to keep working with that, because sometimes the voice of desire genuinely surprised me.

I feel more confident in who I am and what I want, and the contradictions no longer feel as confusing, just that I can accept that my sexuality has two different sides of a coin, and it just depends on how you look at it.

You should work with Julia if, for among other reasons, you are trying to figure out what you want sexually. Julia is warm and caring and very conscientious about making it a comfortable and positive place. They ask good questions, which is great when you don’t yet know exactly what you want to ask. I would wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone seeking clarity in their own desires or how to make kink or sexuality work in a relationship."

- Jessica B.

"Before working with Coach Julia, I had a limited knowledge of my sexuality. I had run into frustrations, limitations and challenges with myself and past partners without knowing why. I used to think that everyone spoke the same "erotic language." Boy, was I dense!

But by delving into my past, learning about myself and gaining a deeper understanding of eroticism and the different erotic blueprints, I not only gained a greater understanding of what could bring me greater arousal and pleasure, but also how to heighten the sexual experiences of my partners. In turn, I learned empathy, and a new way to communicate my wants and be more patient and understanding of others.

I was able to manage seemingly conflicting "paradoxes" contained within me, the ability to be kinky and monogamous. Happy to say because of my time with Coach Julia I was able to better pinpoint my current partner's blueprint, desires and needs!

I highly recommend working with Coach Julia. Not only is Coach Julia highly intelligent, nurturing and well-versed in the erotic blueprints, but she is meticulous, thorough, and comes up with brilliant insights. Her customized homework really helped me "break through" some of my frustrations and limitations, and be a more whole-minded and loving person. It was truly an honor to be her student."

- Dollyllama, Sexual / Psychological Kinky

"I graduated as a Sexsibility coach 2010 and have worked in the field of somatic sexuality education since. I had just finished the Erotic Blueprint™ Coach certification and I was in a “birthing crisis” to come into the next step in my own sexual unfolding. Julia and I are both part of the first group to be trained to coach Jaiya’s Erotic Blueprints. To get to my “next step,” I needed support and I reached out to Julia. I had already worked through the 8-week Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Course with the support of another fellow-coach.

Julia coached me in one session on Erotic Persona work. And it made all the difference for me. Julia was such a loving, smart presence through the whole session. When the issue where I was really stuck came up, she met me in just the right way for me, and she asked the right spot-on questions that loosened me from that place of fear and immobility.

Now I reap the rewards of having come into that next version of my sexual creature. It shows up in all areas of my life: more satisfying sex life, better communication in all my relations, and financially I also get to the next step thanks to me working through that place of stuck in my Eros.

Do I recommend working with Julia? Short answer YES!

Long answer: Are you considering investing in yourself through working with Julia as your Erotic Coach? Is Julia a yes to work with you? Consider yourself lucky.* Take action to start the work! With Julia, you are in the best hands, heart and mind you will ever find in a coach!

*Supporting people in their sexual/erotic unfolding is delicate work. We coaches are not suited to work with everyone, and if a coach considers they are not a fit for a potential client they will say so and refer you to someone else. This is how sex coaching is practiced in its most integral way."

- Marina Kronkvist, Erotic Life Coach, www.ritual-play.com

At the end of the day, my job is to support you in orienting to your own wisdom, power, love, and joy. Trainings and certifications that help me do this:
- Certified Erotic Blueprint™ Coach (somatic sexuality)
- Trained with Artemisia DeVine (deep, tailored fantasy and desire wisdom work)
- Certified Sexological Bodyworker, studied under Joseph Kramer, Deej Juventin, Uma Furman, The Institute of Somatic Sexology (somatic sexuality, consent)
- Certified Accelerated Evolution™ Coach (processes for finding your own wisdom)
- Studied dare carrasquillo's Deathclown work (making use of all there is, including all emotions, scene as ritual)
- Kink training with Orpheus Black (kink, communication, consent)
- ForteFemme Women’s Dominance Intensive with Midori (kink, communication, consent, finding your inner wisdom)
- Trauma Resiliency Model Level I and II trainings (somatic trauma modality)
- NeuroAffective Touch trainings with Aline LaPierre (somatic trauma modality)
- Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent training, Like a Pro, with Marcia Baczynski (consent, communication, kink, somatic sexuality)

Twice exceptional clients | Designing a custom plan that works for you | Trauma-informed coach | Self-compassion | Teamwork & leadership | Consent | Communication | Negotiation | Psychological kink | Out-there desires | Consensual non-consent | Witnessing | Masturbation Coaching

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