Guest post by Anne More, Licensed Erotic Blueprint Coach
The Erotic Blueprints™ are amazing for transforming our sex lives – and they are about so much more than sex!
They helped me know and love myself as I am (a big Shapeshifter™!)
After working with them daily for over two years, here is what I know: they are about radical acceptance of our true selves. They can be incredibly powerful tools in every area of our lives.
The more I know and understand my Blueprint, the more I can release shame and judgment about myself… and the more I can be fully present in my life and with others.
Being fully present has expanded my ability to:
- See and be seen by others
- Be in the moment
- Be in my body rather than stuck in my head with negative self-talk, worry, or future thinking
Create a deeper connection, get better results and bring more mindfulness and presence to all areas of your life with these 7 practices to incorporate Erotic Blueprints into communication style
1) Use your knowledge of the Erotic Blueprints™ to see others as they are in all their unique magic.
If you’re in a relationship, begin with your partner.
What way is your partner different from you?
If your partner is a different Blueprint Type than you, they may have different turn-ons, or find pleasure differently than you.
Get curious about what truly inspires arousal and passion in them and try giving it to them how they like it!
Instead of getting frustrated, how can you celebrate those differences?
2) Practice celebrating Blueprint™ magic out in the world
Honor everyone in their pure expression of themselves.
For example, when you’re behind someone in a line at a restaurant taking time and slowing things down because they need their meal to be just right, do you get aggravated?
Perhaps instead you can recognize they may be a Sensual Blueprint™, and you can accept, embrace, and celebrate that they know exactly what their body needs and take delight in their specificity?
When you’re with a Sexual Blueprint™, who wants certainty in planning a get-together, can you honor them with a clear ‘Yes’ or a grounded ‘No’?
When you’re with an Energetic Blueprint™ who needs lots of space and time to process a new idea, can you give them that space with love and patience?
Can you do this with friends? Family members? How does this shift how you see them?
Notice how this practice feels in your body. How does it change how you honor and accept your own needs?
3) Be yourself, as you are, in your own unique expression of your Erotic Blueprint
Discover how your body works and responds in its own particular way.
Relax into knowing and that this is a wonderful thing!
Celebrate your own quirky, beautiful ways: light a candle to your uniqueness. Dance your own awesomeness. Toast to the wonder that is you just the way you are.
4) Become aware of how you use language in your own Blueprint
We tend to approach the world the way we wish to be approached.
Make it a mindfulness practice speaking the language of a Blueprint you’re less comfortable with using.
If you’re an Energetic Blueprint Type, used to speaking “Energetic”, try on what it would be like to talk in the Sensual Blueprint™.
Try it in texting, in conversation and speaking inside your own head.
When you switch to another Blueprint style, what do you notice?
What changes do you feel in your body?
Does a person you’re speaking to feel more responsive because you’re honoring their Blueprint in the way you’re speaking?
5) Observe people in romantic partnerships
When you notice people in a loving relationship, pay attention and ask yourself the following questions:
How do they accept and celebrate one another?
How do their Erotic Blueprints shape this connection?
What can you learn from how others honor or don’t honor each other?
6) Receive intentionally
Be mindful of those around you who give to you: a compliment, a courteous gesture, a smile.
Notice what Blueprint™ you sense in this gift. How are they giving to you?
Breathe it in as it is. Feel where it lands in your body.
Stay in the pleasure of receiving for one breath longer than you think you can stand.
7) Give intentionally
Take one action today, for your partner or a beloved friend or family member, that will bring delight to their Blueprint’s soul.
What is their Blueprint? What single choice could you make that would bring them joy?
All of these practices are simple but powerful because that helps us bring intentionality and full presence into interacting with others.
By taking a few moments periodically throughout the day to be mindful about the Blueprints Communication Styles (in your conversation, play, and observation), you will literally change the way you connect and love.
Become a Blueprint Love Detective by using the Erotic Blueprints to bring new awareness to all the different people in the world and create magic in all your relationships.
If you don’t know your Erotic Blueprint™ Type, take the Blueprint Quiz at www.eroticbreakthrough.com. To better understand a lover, friend or family member, share the quiz with them and ask about their results.
Anne More is a Licensed Erotic Blueprint Coach™, Certified Somatic SEX Educator, and Reiki Master. Anne brings her commitment to mindfulness into her daily life and relationships.